All journeys begin with a first step. It makes sense in this case then, to start with the introduction of Jen’s book as the jumping off point for my adventure. She starts sharing her wisdom and advice early, and even the introduction of her book has points that make you stop, think, and reflect. She wants us to know that we need to go from wanting to change our lives to deciding to change our lives, and the first thing that she asks the reader to do is belive that we live in a world of limitless possibilities.
At first, these seem like some pretty easy things to do after all, we don’t even have to go out and actually do anything to complete these tasks, all we need to do is just think certain things. But like Jen says, these two tasks (especially the first one) require us to set aside our disbelief and truly believe. As it turns out, this is actually a lot more difficult than it sounds.
“You need to go from wanting to do change your life, to deciding to change your life. Deciding means jumping in all the way, doing whatever it takes, and going after your dreams with the tenacity of a dateless cheerleader a week before prom night.”
Wanting to do something and deciding to do it are completely different. Wanting can be done anywhere at anytime and is something that is done purely in the mind. Deciding to do something means that not only does one spend a lot of time thinking about doing something, but then you actually have to act on it. At least, that’s what I get out of it! Deciding is about actioning and actually doing something about whatever it is you want to change, whereas you can want until the cows come home and nothing ever physically or mentally happens.
“The first thing I’m going to ask you to do is belive that we live in a world of limitless possibilities.”
When you start to think about living in a world with limitless possibilities it’s actually quite mind-blowing. I don’t think we realize how often we put limits on our own capabilities and desires until we start to examine what we truly want and why we’ve been telling ourselves, either consciously or subconsciously, that we can’t have them yet.
When I started to think of a world of limitless possibilities this is what happened. First, I was all, you know, I want to move out of my mom’s house, I want to have someone to come home to each night who loves me, I want to be successful, etc. You get the point. It was a complete downer and totally boring.
Then, I thought about it some more and I came up with this list: I want to have a beautiful family filled with wholehearted love and laughter and kids and pets. I want financial security not only for my own family, but for my mom, my sister, my grandparents. I want to have a second home in Europe. I want to be able to travel the world for pleasure and for work. I want to take my family and friends on vacation. I want to donate to, and be a patron of, the arts. I want to donate and sponsor causes that I really love. I want to be successful and fulfilled in my career whatever that may turn out to be. I want to meet new and interesting people and world influencers.
I’m sure there are a bunch of other things that I haven’t even thought of yet, but as you can imagine, it was so much more fun making the second list. There were no limits to the possibilities, and when that’s the case, I think it makes you take a look at what you really want. Like deep deep down, in the part of you that feels like it probably shouldn’t even bother because there’s absolutely no chance, because we need to be realistic after all – that’s the part that you need to talk to. What do you want because you can have anything that you desire and will make you happy. Then, you need to believe that all of that is possible (ok, this might be the hardest part).
It’s amazing what you find down there. It’s also a bit scary, but how are you going to know what you’re changing your life for, if you don’t do some self-exploration ahead of time?